“Prodependence is recommended (maybe even required) reading for all recovering addicts, all spouses and family members of addicts, and all therapists who work with addicts and family members of addicts.”

I Love Recovery Cafe

“Removing codependence and addiction from the list of diseases that afflict humankind and seeing their cause as responses to overwhelming life conditions rehumanizes those who suffer—both addicts and those who love them. This approach rightly acknowledges them as co-participants in the human journey rather than objects of analysis and treatment. In Prodependence, Robert Weiss has not only created a new term but has also boldly challenged the cultural practice of negatively labeling those in service to others. He shows that by doing so, we devalue their selfless efforts and amplify their suffering. This groundbreaking book is a call to awaken from the old way of thinking to find new and positive methods. We recommend it to all mental health providers and to those whose mental health will improve by reading it.”

Harville Hendrix, PhD, and Helen LaKelly Hunt, PhD, coauthors of Getting the Love You Want and The Space Between

“At last, a therapist who understands the power of love. Bravo, Robert Weiss! Rather than judging the caregivers of addicts as codependents with pathologies of their own, Weiss recognizes them as normal, mentally healthy men and women with a deep and unconditional love for their addicted partner or family member. He celebrates emotional dependence, offering nonjudgmental support and guidance for navigating the difficult landscape of relationship with an addict. By coming from a positive perspective, his concepts offer hope instead of despair for those living in crisis. And as a bonus, it’s a fascinating read about the evolution of the recovery movement, and the importance of human kindness and connection in healing.”

Helen Fisher, PhD, bestselling author of Why We Love, Anatomy of Love, and Why Him? Why Her?

“Rob Weiss is a clinical pioneer and innovator. In Prodependence, he takes issue with the codependence model and replaces it with an attachment-based perspective that is less pathologizing and stigmatizing of an individual or a family’s love for an addicted relative. Weiss’ work and speculation based on his clinical experience moves the field forward and provides clinicians who work with addictions a lot of “food for thought.”

Christine A. Courtois, PhD, ABPP, author, Healing the Incest Wound and Treating Complex Traumatic Stress Disorders (co-authored with Dr. Julian Ford)

“Prodependence provides a refreshing, empathetic, and practical approach to understanding partners and families of addicts, and how best to help them learn how to handle their difficult situation. Avoiding the classic split between the trauma and codependency models, Weiss uses the framework of attachment theory to avoid blaming partners and pathologizing their behavior. Instead, he validates and reframes their efforts and provides techniques to help them heal, improve their selfcare, set appropriate boundaries for their own behavior, and deal with their challenges. This beautifully written book is must-reading for all those who love an addict, as well as all mental health professionals.”

Jennifer Schneider, MD, author of Back from Betrayal: Recovering from the Trauma of Infidelity

“First there was codependence, then there was the trauma model. Now we have prodependence—the evolution of empowerment for partners, families, and others affected by the addiction or illness of someone they love. Bravo, Rob Weiss, for crossing the next frontier in addiction/attachment-systems theory and extending us an invitation and detailed map of how to join him there. With fresh ideas and crisp writing, Weiss distills decades of experience into a compassionate call to action. There is a new and better way to support those whose lives are affected by an addict, and it’s called prodependence.”

Staci Sprout, LICSW, CSAT, author of Naked in Public: A Memoir of Recovery from Sex Addiction and Other Temporary Insanities

“Rob Weiss has assessed the addiction treatment landscape with a keen eye and extensive clinical experience and proposed a new framework which will advance our clinical understanding of addiction. In this new book, he reconceptualizes the nature of relationships between addicts and the people who love them. He notes that the concept of codependence has fallen short both in terms of specificity and accurately capturing the intentions and actions of persons affected by addiction. In this important book, he proposes a new model based on attachment theory that promises to rewrite our approach to the care and treatment of those in relationships with addicts.”

David Fawcett, PhD, author of Lust, Men, and Meth: A Gay Man’s Guide to Sex and Recovery

“Robert Weiss’ “Prodependence” is a must read for those who are wanting to learn about the fine dance between dependence and autonomy and more importantly becoming our best selves in relationship with others. So often you hear people downplaying the role of attachments for an illusory, hyper-masculine attitude of self-sufficiency and doing-it-alone approach to life. With wisdom and compassion, Robert offers a paradigm-shifting book that shows us how to love and be loved, and in turn, change the world for the better.”

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